By the time you’ve gone through a divorce from a narcissist, you’ll likely know the tactics that they use to try to gain control over situations, so they can have their way. Just because the divorce is over doesn’t mean that you’re done having to deal with those antics. If you share children with your narcissistic ex, you’re probably going to have a long run of fielding their dramatic tactics.
Co-parenting with a narcissist means that you’re probably never going to be able to let your guard down. They’ll likely try to make everything as difficult as possible for you. Because lying and using general nastiness to get their way is a common event with these individuals, you need to be prepared to defend yourself against these.
It’s a good idea to keep detailed records of all interactions with your ex. This can provide you with the evidence you need to combat false claims they make about you. In some cases, addressing the lies might not be in your best interests. You have to think about the implications of ignoring the tactics, so you don’t give them the satisfaction of getting a rise out of you. Be sure you think logically because you do need to address things like claims of neglect. Your attorney can help you evaluate your options in these cases.
As you’re going through the child custody and parenting time matters, make sure that you’re keeping the kids first. Sometimes, a narcissistic ex might be a good parent even if they were a horrible spouse. Trying to keep the focus on the kids can help you avoid having to deal with issues that don’t really matter.
Your parenting plan should be as detailed as possible when you’re dealing with a narcissistic ex. As time progresses, you may notice that the plan doesn’t really work any longer. In this case, seeking a modification might be in order. Your attorney can work with you to get this taken care of.